I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t intrigued by the lifestyle.. I remember being 12 or 13 and masturbating to the idea of being spanked and thinking, “This is really weird. Do people even do this?” I’ve never had a normal ‘vanilla’ fantasy in my life.
Things changed for me when I discovered the internet. I was able to give a name to my interests, and see that there were many of other people like me, (not to mention, MUCH weirder), and that was very comforting.
I learned quickly that there’s a LOT of masquerading and it can be difficult to sort out the good guys from the bad guys. I spent several years just chatting with people and figuring out my own motivations for wanting to be treated this way. I also spent a lot of time learning to identify the differences between a good Dom and a bad one.
I was in my in my early 20’s when I accepted that being a submissive was not just a passing phase, and that’s when I transitioned to real life practice.
Since then, I’ve spent the rest of my time balancing the intensity that I crave with a regular life. I’ve always made sure to arrange my life in a way that leaves me lots of freedom to do the kinky things I need to do. :)
The problem for me is that I love being submissive soooooo much that I could happily live the rest of my life in Sir’s cage being taken out only to be used… but that’s not very healthy.
Thank you for the question. :)